In the Women’s Section of the Mosque during Taraweeh Prayers …

… some come early so that they can reserve an entire row for their friends who are, most of the time, late for prayers.  And they won’t let others occupy that space even though the Imam has started leading the prayers.

… some bring toddlers so hyper that they run about non-stop for the entire duration of the Taraweeh.  And when everyone is standing for the prayers, these kids play hide and seek amidst the rows.

… some bring infants with them who wail so loud (and non-stop) that the Imam – who is already using the microphone – feels the need to raise his voice when making dua.

… some (the older women) will start getting annoyed with all the hyperactivity and noise made by the children and shout at the mothers to bring the kids home.

… some take advantage of the brief break between prayers to gossip about their in-laws, colleagues and neighbors.

… some arrive while everyone else is already standing up in salat, walk right in front of you, and even pause there for a minute or two while apparently selecting a spot for themselves.

… some use your shoulder as a support to get up.

… and then there are some who just go to pray quietly, return home, and then blog.

I do not know how it’s like in the men’s section, but frankly for me, it requires a tremendous amount of patience and concentration to get through each Taraweeh prayer because of all the commotions taking place in our section.

How’s your Taraweeh prayers coming along?

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43 Responses to In the Women’s Section of the Mosque during Taraweeh Prayers …

  1. refine lubis says:

    it sounds very familiar sis …. and the last point too the same, someone finish the teraweh, go home and blog.

    all the best for your ramadan. salam.

    • nadia says:

      Walaikum Assalam, Sis. Thank you 🙂

      I’ve been planning to blog every other night but usually end up watching cooking shows and then sleep. Ever since Ramadan started, I have this craving to watch Pakistani cooking shows online. Maybe I may actually cook some of them someday 🙂

  2. masood says:

    In this matter, Men are quite better than women. We don’t gossip in between the breaks except staring around to find such activities..lol

    • nadia says:

      Looking around is much, much better than actually gossiping and talking! I wish we had the same discipline in the ladies’ section too.

  3. Its necessary to leave kids at home to not interrupt during Taraweeh. At least they should respect the Holy month and if it’s not possible to leave toddlers at home then they can offer their prayers at home as well…. I am afraid people could notice such things…

    • nadia says:

      captureuniverse, I agree that women with small children should pray their Taraweehs at home. We all know that children do not have the patience to sit through these long prayers, therefore they get irritated, bored and cranky.

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  5. Humaira says:

    Our women’s section barely gets by with 4 people. 10 if its a good day or a party’s happened in the hall across the road from the mosque.

    That’s when it feels like proper prayers.

    We thankfully don’t have the problem of the hyperactive kids, but hyperactive adults who insist on gossiping after 8 salahs while the rest of us are trying to concentrate and get through the 20.

    And we have 3 Imams leading prayers. Our regular one who’s clear in his recitation Alhamdulillah. The mumbler who goes really fast for the 2nd leg. And the one who takes ages right at the end.

    Last year we got spoiled and got this amazing guy who had such beautiful recitation it FELT like you were in Mecca. *Sigh* Not this year, but Alhamdulillah I’m grateful to even be able to go to Tarawih at all.

    • nadia says:

      “…10 if its a good day or a party’s happened in the hall across the road from the mosque.” Really?! 😀

      Humaira, hyperactive adults are even more annoying that those wailing kids!

  6. Item number one is most annoying and unreasonable.

  7. Mezba says:

    Have to say the mens’ section is not anything near as annoying. The only complaints I have are uncles who “burp the Ameen” and some other uncles who seem obsessed with having their feet touch yours (the whole feet to feet, shoulder to shoulder leave no space thing). Other than that we seem to be fine.

    Asked the Wife about the ladies’ section – seems they too have similar problems as yours in the post. Our mosque does have baby sitting but some parents think bringing a hyperactive sugar-laden obese kid against their wishes into the mosque will solve all problems.

    • nadia says:

      Mezba, LOL at uncles burping their ameen! 😀

      But isn’t their feet touching yours recommended? Unless, of course, they actually start stepping on your toes.

      So the ladies’ section is the same everywhere 🙂

  8. Atie says:

    Is it a coincident or it simply happens everywhere? Same situation here too! But one thing makes a difference: our masjid becomes three quarter empty after the eighth raka’at! Right after the Imam recite the dua, everyone seem to be scurrying back home and offer Witir at the comfort of their home sweet home. My husband do not allow me to go to masjid for taraweeh for many reasons. 1) My baby porcupine would sure bring lots of trouble there. 2) To avoid gossiping + impatience + anger 3) Women not obliged to go to masjid like men. They get the same share of good deeds even when the just pray at home. I’m a bit sad I can’t go to masjid but then these are all true indeed…. 😦

    • nadia says:

      Atie, sadly enough, these scenarios seem to be happening in the ladies’ section of the mosques worldwide.

      “…our masjid becomes three quarter empty after the eighth raka’at!” But they are already in the masjid, why not complete all the prayers inclusing witr? Here in our masjid, the Imam offers 8 rakat of Taraweeh each night.

      Your husband is right. If I had a toddler, I would’ve prefered to offer my prayers at home myself.

  9. Hajar Alwi says:

    Assalamualaikum dearest Nadia~!

    My situation is similar to sister Atie in the sense that my family discourages me from going to the mosque. I can understand their standing. On normal days when I do go to the mosque, I can almost always see the problems you’ve stated above. Not to mention women gossiping where is my husband, and whether I’m still available. Very irritating!

    PS: Mailed your card on Mon. morn. You’ll receive it next week, Insha’Allah. 🙂

    • nadia says:

      Walaikum Assalam dearest Hajar!

      “…Not to mention women gossiping where is my husband, and whether I’m still available.” LOL, I totally forgot about that! In the mosque where Masood and I go to attend Taraweeh prayers, majority of women are from India/Pakistan/Bangladesh, and they would start match-making during the breaks! 😀

      Yay! I’m so excited about the card! I’ll post yours in a day or two, inshaAllah. Will let you know.

  10. Atie says:

    LOL on Hajar’s comment on asking her husband’s whereabout during break… Why would a woman ask for another woman’s husband, in a women’s prayer section? I can’t stop laughing now. That’s really funny, but it happens, though.

  11. Mohammad says:

    Patience….more than anything i guess that is what Ramazan is all about Patience baji

  12. Lat k says:

    It’s the same here as well.Just one extra to add,the cellphones untimely making entrance.There’re still some who still do not switch off or put their cells on silent mode.

    I think that if there were no partitions with women and men being seen by the Imam and the rest of the group,all that noise and gossip will automatically stop for fear of being brandished as unruly and disobedient.The fact that we’re blocked from the most important section of the mosque gives the impression that the womens’ section is less significant with no difference than in praying at home.And children being with mothers’ all day long,don’t understand why they should behave differently in mosques.

    I’ve prayed at home so far.If possible inshaAllah,I’ll go to the mosque,where it seems most likely that I’ll go thru’ all the scenarios you’ve written in your post 🙂

    • nadia says:

      Lat, fortunately the women here remember to put their phones in silent 🙂

      And this masjid that I go to to attend Taraweeh isn’t completely blocked off from the mens’ section because only a screen separates us from them. Women can clearly see the men praying and the Imam. But that doesn’t stop them from whatever they do. BUT, you are right because I have observed that women’s section that are completely blocked off (i.e. entirely separate room with only speakers to hear the Imam) are the ones where women are more un-disciplined.

      I’ve learned to go early – around 15 to 20 mins before Isha prayers – and take the last spot of the first row (near the wall). It’s the most “peaceful” place to offer prayers. Women with children prefer the last few rows. So that’s where all the excitement takes place.

      But then, if you’re in a small masjid, it won’t really help which row you take 😀

  13. Mohammad says:

    Patience is the key

  14. Sajib says:

    How come you’re showing only one post on homepage. 😮

    Anyway, I bet you don’t remember me at all (I don’t see you on my blog 😦 ). Let me introduce myself to you. I’m …………..

    Well, hehe actually I forgot about you. But recently I’ve added a blogroll at my sidebar and adding the blogs I like to read from time to time. That’s when I remembered you and added to my blogroll. I don’t see any blogroll on your blog. Otherwise I would have asked for getting added. 😉

    Hope you are doing good.

    • nadia says:

      Hello there, Sajib! No, I haven’t forgotten about you at all. I don’t forget people who leave comments on my blog 🙂 I do read your blog, except that I don’t comment regularly. And yes, I do not have a blog roll around here – yet. Maybe someday. I read a few dozen blogs regularly and I love them all, so I need to organize things first 😀

      How’s Ramadan in Dhaka?

      • Sajib says:

        Ramadan in Dhaka is painful. Traffic Jam has increased several times. And one more thing that we notice every year is here people actually eat more than they do in other months. It’s losing its importance over here among rich people. For most of them, Ramadan means ‘starving’ for a specific period of time and shopping thoughtlessly all throughout the month for the Eid occasion. You’ll see thousands of items on Iftar table although the persons having them were not fasting.

        I’m very used to see this. But this still makes me kind of angry.

  15. shubha says:

    Interesting read, I thought we had this issue only in meditation centers and temples 🙂

  16. Brilliant blog.

    i want to know why is men’s and women’s section separate while praying??

    i mean all you do is pray both men and women. Why separate them ????

    Anyways Happy Ramadan to you and your family.

    Hope you and your family gets all the blessings of God.

    • nadia says:

      Thank you, Indian Pundit, and welcome to the blog.

      Strict gender segregation in mosques as seen today, in the form of an entirely separate room dedicated to women, is viewed by many as cultural than Islamic. You can read this for more info in this topic.

  17. shubha says:

    trust me u’ll see it 🙂

  18. reedssss says:

    salamz nadia
    hows u
    well taravee is the blessing of month of ramzan so concentration is nesecarry n taravee with kids is not possible they create disturbance

    • nadia says:

      Walaikum Assalam, Reedssss! I am doing absolutely great, alhumdulillah. How are you?

      One of the reasons why we attend Taraweeh prayers in the masjid is to listen to the beautiful recitation of the Quran, which of course isn’t a pleasant experience if you have kids screaming and crying.

  19. mubi says:

    oh great so much has already been said.. but yes i have experienced some of the things you have mentioned during taraweeh prayers here ( though the concept of praying in masjid in Pakistan is relatively new)

    it is quite a fulfilling experience to pray in the masjid but as same time you come across a lot of weird people. i so agree with ppl who save rows for their friends.. some of the aunties did that last year and while i stood praying complained that i have taken their place :s

    • nadia says:

      “… while i stood praying complained that i have taken their place.” That’s exactly what they do here too – complain that it’s “their” place.

  20. Sara says:

    Ugh, your mosque sounds exactly like mine in Cairo! It was my first Ramadan doing taraweeh and I LOVED it – except for all the women gossiping and being generally annoying -__-

    Eid Mubarak!

  21. Isn’t Taraweh prayer for those who have difficulty getting up before seher to do tuhajjad prayer? So why don’t you try the more “difficult” thing and try tuhajjad prayer in the quiet instead of taraweh prayer with distractons? 😉

  22. Yasser says:

    Men section is not like this, i am not sure but i am surprised to see/hear why women(mostly) not patient enough to give other people space and show kindness even at the presence on holy places, just like you my mom depicts the same story of women department section at Makkah and Medina, it’s really sad to hear this. 😦

    • nadia says:

      Yasser, most women are patient in mosques during prayers; only a handful are the types who gossip or bring infants, but these few women are enough to disrupt everyone’s peace 😦

  23. um almujahid says:

    true, true, true! SubhanaAllah! One of the reasons why I prefer to pray taraweeh at home 😉

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