Without Her

It definitely wasn’t love at first sight.  They went to the same college in North India and saw each other regularly.  How the casual friendship blossomed into love, they didn’t notice.  Then together, they planned their future – career, home, marriage, and family.

holding_handsTheir marriage had been a huge issue.  He came from a middle class family, whereas her family owned lands and businesses.  People say that her family’s land in India is so widespread that a train traveling through one of her grandfather’s fields would take several hours before it reaches the other end.

But they were madly in love and persistent.  Eventually, their families gave in.  The wedding took place in his hometown.   The bridal entourage flew in their private jet.

A couple of years later, the young couple migrated to Canada.  They had everything – an adorable son, a rewarding career, a home and a blissful marriage.  Together, they visited their families every summer.  Everyone back home spoke of their unconditional love.  They were inseparable.

One fine morning, they decided to go for a long drive in their new jeep.  The weather was perfect, and so they packed their stuff and drove off for the weekend.  The countryside was breathtaking!  They took hundreds of pictures and had a fabulous time.

On their way home from the refreshing trip, she offered to drive.  Their son was fast asleep, exhausted.  He played soft music and closed his eyes.  Moments later, he thought he smelled something burning.  He opened his eyes and saw sparks  – where exactly they were coming from, he didn’t remember.  Next thing he knew, his wife was shouting at him to jump off the jeep!  When he didn’t, she managed to open the door and pushed him out herself.  It happened so fast.

He saw men in white when he opened his eyes.  His head hurt terribly and he couldn’t seem to move.  “It’s alright.  You’re in the hospital.  Try to get some sleep,”  said one of the doctors.

A month later, he was staring out of the window, his eyes blank and his mind numb.  “Why us?”  he thought.  His mother, very much worried with his health, brought some lunch, which he refused.  His son and father looked at him silently.  He was there with them, but all they miss him terribly.

He had lost so much in such a brief moment.  The jeep caught fire, and though his wife pushed him out to save his life, he sustained third-degree burns on his left arm.  The doctors had to amputate the limb in order to save his life.  The blankets that wrapped their son while he was sleeping at the back of the jeep saved his live;  he was unharmed.  His wife, however, couldn’t make it.  She died before reaching the hospital.

For an entire year, his parents looked after him and his son.  He refused to go back to work.  He refused to move on.  He refused to live life without her.

His parents, frustrated at their son’s unwillingness to help himself recover, decided to leave him to fend for himself.  One day, they packed their belongings and returned home – just like that.  And he was left alone with his young son.

That’s when he finally  got up from besides the window, where he had spent several days and even nights, hugged the innocent little boy, and vowed to move on for his son’s sake.

It’s been five years now since that incident.  He still lives in Canada with his son and works for a health care company.  He spends time with the father_and_sonkid, going out to movies and zoo.  He is working hard to be the best father he could be.  But he refuses to remarry;  won’t even entertain the thought.

He might have moved on, but he definitely hasn’t fully recovered yet.

This is a true story.  Names have been withheld and places changed, respecting the privacy of the people involved.  Pictures were taken from Google images.

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28 Responses to Without Her

  1. Umm Travis says:

    AWWW sisssss made me wanna crrrrryyyyy

  2. Haleem says:

    How sad. Sometimes, life tests us in ways unexpected.

  3. Cavaliere says:

    It’s such a moving tale !
    I think the parents did the right thing by leaving their son to face the realities. Though the person may never fully recover, he may find solace in the fact that he’s his son to look after and his son’s life to look forward to.

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  5. masood says:

    Ohh, it’s so touchy, jaan.

  6. hfm says:


    It’s frightening how dependent we become on those who we love. Life seems void once they’re gone.

  7. Niyaz says:

    Very touching & sad …….

  8. Abid says:

    Very well put and an extremely touching story

  9. Aadil says:

    A sad story but an unbelievable tale of unconditional love! The turns of events reminded one of the unevenness of life, the unpredictability of it. One should always thank Allah for the present and seek His mercy!

  10. nadia says:

    Umm Travis, Fariha, HFM – thank you so much for your comments.

    Masood, Haleem, Cavaliere, Niyaz, Abid, and Aadil – thank you for your comments.

  11. Aqeel says:

    An extremely sad and painful story. Only the person who has lost someone very dear to him can tell the extent of pain he /she is going through.I really feel for him. May God bless him.

  12. Nikki says:

    That’s why they say Life is Unexpected, Sometimes it comes good to you and sometimes bad.

  13. nadia says:

    Nikki, Aqeel and Ubaid – thank you for visiting.

  14. Sumera says:

    Sad. Can’t imagine what life would be like without your spouse – suppose its not something most of us have to deal with ~sigh~

  15. Mezba says:

    Sad and poignant.

    So what happened to this man now?

  16. nadia says:

    This man is living his life only for his son’s sake now. The family has been encouraging him to remarry, but he refuses.

  17. Specs says:

    What must it be like to be loved so unconditionally. .. or to love like that …

    An amazing and moving account.

  18. Louise says:

    How beautifully written. What a sad story. I respect that he won’t remarry, but would not judge if he did. Those decisions are different for everyone. But the pain he must still have every day is haunting, and your words bring it out.

  19. nadia says:

    Mezba, Specs and Louise – thank you so much.

  20. Jus says:

    A bit sceptical. but only bcos im in a horrible mood in a dark age.

  21. nadia says:

    Jus – feel better soon.

  22. Asma Ahsan says:

    He lost the woman he loved. He also lost a left arm. He lives for the son she left behind and he doesnt re-marry because no woman could ever replace the mother he can see in the face of his little boy.

    This man cannot remarry as he has no need to. No woman could ever replace the memory of his wife in his heart – and nor should she. The wife he loved saved the child and him and died herslf saving them. What a woman she must have been. I am sure her soul is with them all the time and sends them messages through the angels of God to take care of himself and their son because her soul will always love him and they will inshaallah be together in the next life.

    No one should ask this man to remarry – he doesnt need to. Allah is there for him and so is the spirit of the woman he loved. 🙂

  23. meow says:

    This made me cry 😦

    May Allah protect him and his son. Ameen.

  24. farvin says:

    everything happen for a reasons….

  25. Mishall says:

    Have read many touching stories N this was made me teary as well – Life really test us N our strength sometimes, unconditional love is rarely found N I feel this one is all about that kind of love N care. Life goes on, definitely it does, but whether one can fully live their lives after such incidents or not isn’t easy to say hmm – God bless 🙂

  26. Zobia says:

    awwww, such a sad and touching story, i love the way its written so incredibly beautifully…it made me feel as if i was there, seeing it all!

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