With Love Comes Duty

…and He has put love and compassion between your hearts: verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” Quran 30:21

We love and crave to be loved in return. But with love comes duty.

Love is more than a person’s own momentary sense of happiness and elation. It is more than companionship. Love is more than feeling good about someone. It is more than feeling good about one’s self. With love comes duty. With love comes the need for us to expand our definitions of ourselves, to reach out, and to make sacrifices.


We love ourselves because we are unique. We love ourselves for the achievements and triumphs, for helping others, and for being blessed. But with love comes duty.

We have the duty to look after ourselves. We have to maintain ourselves – spiritually, emotionally, and physically – in order for us to be able to give love to others.


We all love our parents. We love them because they raised us up, sacrificed to provide us with the best education, taught us morals and values, fed us, clothe us, and helped us shape into the individuals that we are today. We love them for the values they have infused in our very souls, so we become better individuals.

But with love comes duty.

When we love our parents, we have the duty to be obedient. We have the duty to address them with honor, to respect them, to look after them, to speak with them gently and with kind words. With love, it is our duty to pray for them.


We love our spouse because they fill in a certain void in our souls, and satisfy our longings for companionship and intimacy. We love them because they stay by us through thick and thin.

But with love comes duty.

When we love our spouse, it is more than expressing our own feelings towards the person we are married to. We have the duty to stretch out from our comfort zone in order to accommodate the other. We have the duty to make some changes in our lifestyle, to learn from each other. We have the duty to respect and acknowledge the differences. We have the duty to maintain ourselves – spiritually, emotionally, and physically – to remain the person, who has attracted our spouse towards us in the first place.

And most importantly, with love comes our duty to remain faithful.


We love our children because they are a part of our own being. They give us immense happiness. They amaze us with little things. But with love comes duty. It is our duty to discipline them, to teach them, to instill in them values and morals, to treat our children equally, and to help shape their beings so that they grow up to be responsible, God-fearing adults.


We love our friends because we share with them our happiness as well as sorrows. But with love comes duty. We love our friends despite harsh arguments, because we have made a commitment to remain steadfast in our friendship.


And above every relationship is the one that we share with Allah. It is not enough to say that we love him. With loving Him comes our duty to worship and obey Him, and follow His words.

To love Allah is to make a lifetime commitment to be true to Him.

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14 Responses to With Love Comes Duty

  1. Umm Travis says:

    ma shaa Allah, excellent topic, subhan Allah, I think so many people really dont think about it, and it is so true, isnt it? No relationship is easy, it takes a lot of effort, time, patience to say the least!! .. since marriage I have a whole new understanding of real love, and in shaa Allah I pray Allah to keep me in the correct way to continue to learn more. So much duty subhan Allah, it is nothing like it is portrayed in the movies (in terms of it being all romance and flowers) PLUS of course the MORE effort you give, in shaa Allah the more you receive πŸ™‚

    Nice one sis!

  2. masood says:

    SubhanAllah, I am proud of you πŸ™‚

    No doubt you are my eternal love. But with love comes duty, so I promise to give you all the happiness, InshaAllah πŸ™‚

  3. nadia says:

    Umm Travis ~ JazakAllah khair, sister. You are right, no relationship is easy. It is an investment: the more you invest in a relationship, the more valuable it becomes. May Allah bless you, Ameen.

    Masood ~ May Allah bless our relationship and make it stronger each day, Ameen.

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  5. Umm Travis says:


    aww…. ma shaa Allah

  6. Nisa says:

    is it just me? does anyone else feel that the love between indian-paki couples seems more intense? hehhe

    ok jokes aside, yeah everything in life comes with a price. It makes sense i guess to work hard for things that are so sweet to us, these duties just make everything seem so valuable and treasured.

  7. Amir says:

    Mashallah, what a beautiful post. So very true. It is always good to remember our duties so we don’t take our relationships for granted or take advantage of those in the relationship.

  8. nadia says:

    Nisa ~ It’s not just you. I can totally feel the intensity! Alhumdulillah.

    Amir ~ Love surely means responsibilities. And it is sad how some people take advantage of others in a relationship, even in a child-parent one.

  9. Ordinary girl says:

    Wonderful post! πŸ™‚

    We always seem to focus on what we can GET from othe people, while forgetting what we have to GIVE! πŸ™‚

  10. nadia says:

    Thanks for dropping by. Perhaps, it’s time we should concentrate on giving.

    How’s Nani Maa doing now?

  11. Mary says:

    You’re right. So often we forget our duty, especially to ourselves. I see many unhappy people who are unhappy because they don’t love themselves.

    Beautiful post from a beautiful person. I can tell that you do YOUR duty in all your relationships.

  12. nadia says:

    Your are right there, Mary. Unless we love ourselves first, we won’t be able to give love to others.

    Thank you. I am trying the best I can πŸ™‚

  13. Catherine says:

    Your post brings tears of joy to my eyes. Yes, with love comes duty. And fulfilling that duty increases one’s self-respect and love for another. Love without duty is worse than duty without love. Love without duty is empty.

  14. nadia says:

    And only when one recognizes and fulfills those duties does one begin to give selfless love in the purest form.

    Thanks for stopping by, Catherine.

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